Our house is on the market.
We live north of Atlanta in a lovely town but our only child, our daughter and her family, (read: grandkids) live in Nashville. More than anything, we want to move there and be close to our family.
Our business allows us to live anywhere which is a great blessing. And honestly the only reason we’re even in Georgia in the first place is because, after 20 years in Orlando, the call of grandchildren resounded deeply in our hearts. All you Mimi’s and Poppy’s know just what I’m talking about!
When we moved here three years ago, our daughter and her family were living in Georgia north of Atlanta. We decided it was time to move so, thankfully we found a great house we loved not too far from them and moved close to Franny and the grandkids and life was rosy.
However, after we were here a year, our daughter’s career called her back to Nashville. So last summer we decided it was time to move again and we began uncluttering our house and put it on the market.
And we waited.
Waited some more. Prayed extra hard.
We were certain we’d be moved by the holidays. No way it would take more than 6 months to sell our house, right? I mean, we prayed.
Nothing. Zip, zero, nada.
So, we took our home off the market for the winter and just recently put it back on. No offers yet but the spring selling season is just getting started so we’re hopeful.
I’m naturally impatient. I’m a doer and a planner by nature and when I can neither do nor plan, it stresses the heck out of me.
But God has His unique ways of teaching us during the waiting seasons. He’ll will show us so much about our selfish motives and hearts but more importantly, He’ll use this time, if we allow Him, to draw us closer to Himself and reveal His heart to us.
I realize I’m waiting for something good, something positive. All I want is to be closer to my family and to be a part of my grandchildren’s lives. But I’m quite certain some of you might be waiting for indescribably hard, life-altering changes:
- The medical diagnosis.
- The divorce decree.
- The job offer to finally come through.
- The loved one to come back home alive and well.
I firmly believe, no matter what type of waiting season you’re in–whether for something good or something hard–developing these virtues will help.
1–Peace. This is hard for me to find when I’m waiting because, like I told you, I’m impatient. I get uber-frustrated when life doesn’t follow my plans. But I’ve learned to remind myself on the frustrating days, He knows. He cares. I love this scripture from Philippians in the New Living Translation of the bible:
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7
When I leave it in His hands, I can know His peace which will guard my heart and my mind. And I’ve found this scripture to be true time and time again.
2– Faith. If I truly believe God cares, then I must believe He is for me and for my highest good. How dare I not believe?
And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28
There’s a big reminder in this scripture, one I need to remember constantly and it’s this: it’s His purpose, not mine.
3– Obedience. As far as we can tell, Mike and I are in God’s will with this move. But, we’ve prayed many times through this waiting, “Lord if you have something else for us or you don’t want us to move, we will take our house off the market.” And we mean it! More than anything, I want to live a life marked by obedience. And sometimes it means not getting what we want. Those are hard seasons but the fruit–if we’re patient and trust in His wisdom–is always good. Every single time. Whatever my request of Him, whether or not He says yes or no, my only option is to submit and obey.
4– Courage. It takes courage to wait, especially in the hard times. When you’re waiting on a diagnosis for example, you need enormous courage to face your doctor and hear his report. I faced it once, years ago, when we heard the life altering and devastating news from our fertility doctor that we would never have more children. I was the woman who wanted five kids! I wrote about our experience here. It took everything in me to maintain my faith and find my way back to trusting God. It was a hard & scary time but He was patient with me and taught me deep lessons through the process. I learned some big lessons during that time. Sometimes His deepest mercy is in His hardest test.
5– Perseverance. Paul reminds us we are in a race. I’m determined to run it well no matter what. I want to, “…run and not grow weary, walk and not faint…” Isaiah 40:31. Sometimes the waiting is long, decades at times. Talk to the mother of a prodigal child or a wife who’s husband has been deployed for years overseas. Waiting is hard but in the waiting, we have the divine opportunity to draw closer to the Lord to learn His ways and hear His heart. Remember, our amazing God knows what it’s like to wait. He’s long-suffering, don’t forget. As much as possible, use your waiting season to grow in deep intimacy with the Lord.
6– He’s in the future. God knows precisely what’s coming and when. In fact, He’s getting it all set up, putting all the puzzle pieces in place. We can’t see what He’s doing and I think He likes it like that because it forces us to trust. Sometimes He’ll give us a hint or an inkling, a glimmer of the future to help us stay in the race!
7–Patience. Like I mentioned above, I’m naturally impatient so I know God uses times like this in my life to teach me how to wait. Patience is a fruit of the Spirit and clearly it’s one I need to work on. He’s faithful to give us the opportunities we need to grow good fruit! I like to believe God is deeply involved in getting the perfect house ready for us in Nashville and if He rushed it for us, it would be second best. I don’t want second best! It helps me to find contentment in the waiting.
8– Worship. No matter what happens, He is God and I am not. He named every star and He counts every hair on your head. Who else in your life would love you enough to count every hair on your head?? There’s only one way I can respond to a love like that and it’s to bow in worship. As I worship, I’m reminded who He is, who I am and how much He loves me.
I’m trying my best to remember all 8 of these attributes in my waiting season. My waiting is for something good so I have no excuse to not get through this time with grace. Still, I have to remind myself of these 8 virtues each and every day.
Because I’m naturally impatient
What are you waiting for? How can I pray for you in your waiting?